Birthdays make me think.
Birthdays make me make changes.
Birthdays tell me 'Your life is too short - get off your ass and do what's best for you."
This includes the real world as well as LJ. The past few months, I have dealt with personal situations in my life that have reminded me of a great fact:
The best way to get rid of drama in your life is to rid yourself of dramatic people.
I have done that at home....and I will do it here.
In that spirit of change, I have defriended several people from my LJ. Their journal is a snapshot of who they choose to be and what they want to show the world. More power to them, I will defend that right with my blood if necessary - but I have a choice.
I can watch/read out of loyalty, past experiences or obligation, biting my tongue and knowing this isn't helping me in my New World Order. Or I can remember that in this life, times change. Situations change. And that sometimes, you have to deal with people as who and what they ARE - not who and what they WHERE or as you WANT them to be.
This wasn't easy - I thought long and hard about this. I know me well enough to know that there will always be additions and subtractions to my journal that may not be popular - but again, this is MY journal.
There may be consequences to my actions. Others may choose to do to me as I have done to others. That is their right and I respect that. I may be pleasantly surprised or horribly saddened.
But let's clear something up right now. I have not been brainwashed. No one has whispered nasty rumors in my ear. I'm a Grown Ass Man. What I do is based on what I have seen, what I have felt and what I know - not any conspiracy theories, wild ass guesses or unsubstantiated accusations.
I stand by my decisions. Sometimes the hardest thing is to tell someone "I love you, but right now I just don't like you right now and I don't want to be around the maelstrom that surrounds you".
I've done it in my house to my own flesh-and-blood. You're damn right I will do it in my Journal.
And so it goes....