Just the right amount of wrong.

A website for Relationship Obituaries.

Some sad, some angry...read definitely if you in a 'description of a trainwreck' mood.

One of my favorite lines:

A spark of attraction grew into a full blown forest fire of lust, but then like all fires as soon as the rains of reality began falling it was turned into a mucky pile of black sooty ashes.

Was talking to a friend last week about friends, associates, buddies, etc…

We both lamented how people throw the phrase ‘friend’ around when what they probably have is an acquaintance. They act as if the person who they see at the club every week is their friend – that they actually give a damn. It is maddening to watch people “hook up”, befriend, share secrets, monies and body parts with people they wouldn’t associate with in the light of day only because they are drinking together at 1:30AM on a random Saturday night. And then they wonder why their “friend” stole from them/lied about them/cheated on them/has them at the free clinic.

It always seems that the younger you are, the more apt you are in picking 'friends' badly. Maybe age does bring experience and understanding in such matters.

The conversation morphed into a discussion of how the Media loves to crap on the concept of true friends who communicate electronically instead of face-to-face.

Some of the people closest to me I get to see every few months…a couple I’ve never been in the same state, let alone face to face. But if you dare to diminish our bond and caring for each other, be ready to deal with me in your face and pissed off.

For me, friendship is a sacred thing. I personally will do anything in my power for a friend – and I feel guilt when I think I have let them down. All I ask is that they meet me halfway and will do the same.

What constitutes a friend in your eyes?

A frank and earnest look at marriage and relationships from zoethe.

Birthdays make me think.

Birthdays make me make changes.

Birthdays tell me 'Your life is too short - get off your ass and do what's best for you."

This includes the real world as well as LJ. The past few months, I have dealt with personal situations in my life that have reminded me of a great fact:

The best way to get rid of drama in your life is to rid yourself of dramatic people.

I have done that at home....and I will do it here.

In that spirit of change, I have defriended several people from my LJ. Their journal is a snapshot of who they choose to be and what they want to show the world. More power to them, I will defend that right with my blood if necessary - but I have a choice.

I can watch/read out of loyalty, past experiences or obligation, biting my tongue and knowing this isn't helping me in my New World Order. Or I can remember that in this life, times change. Situations change. And that sometimes, you have to deal with people as who and what they ARE - not who and what they WHERE or as you WANT them to be.

This wasn't easy - I thought long and hard about this. I know me well enough to know that there will always be additions and subtractions to my journal that may not be popular - but again, this is MY journal.

There may be consequences to my actions. Others may choose to do to me as I have done to others. That is their right and I respect that. I may be pleasantly surprised or horribly saddened.

But let's clear something up right now. I have not been brainwashed. No one has whispered nasty rumors in my ear. I'm a Grown Ass Man. What I do is based on what I have seen, what I have felt and what I know - not any conspiracy theories, wild ass guesses or unsubstantiated accusations.

I stand by my decisions. Sometimes the hardest thing is to tell someone "I love you, but right now I just don't like you right now and I don't want to be around the maelstrom that surrounds you".

I've done it in my house to my own flesh-and-blood. You're damn right I will do it in my Journal.

And so it goes....