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Was talking to a friend last week about friends, associates, buddies, etc…
We both lamented how people throw the phrase ‘friend’ around when what they probably have is an acquaintance. They act as if the person who they see at the club every week is their friend – that they actually give a damn. It is maddening to watch people “hook up”, befriend, share secrets, monies and body parts with people they wouldn’t associate with in the light of day only because they are drinking together at 1:30AM on a random Saturday night. And then they wonder why their “friend” stole from them/lied about them/cheated on them/has them at the free clinic.
It always seems that the younger you are, the more apt you are in picking 'friends' badly. Maybe age does bring experience and understanding in such matters.
The conversation morphed into a discussion of how the Media loves to crap on the concept of true friends who communicate electronically instead of face-to-face.
Some of the people closest to me I get to see every few months…a couple I’ve never been in the same state, let alone face to face. But if you dare to diminish our bond and caring for each other, be ready to deal with me in your face and pissed off.
For me, friendship is a sacred thing. I personally will do anything in my power for a friend – and I feel guilt when I think I have let them down. All I ask is that they meet me halfway and will do the same.
What constitutes a friend in your eyes?
We both lamented how people throw the phrase ‘friend’ around when what they probably have is an acquaintance. They act as if the person who they see at the club every week is their friend – that they actually give a damn. It is maddening to watch people “hook up”, befriend, share secrets, monies and body parts with people they wouldn’t associate with in the light of day only because they are drinking together at 1:30AM on a random Saturday night. And then they wonder why their “friend” stole from them/lied about them/cheated on them/has them at the free clinic.
It always seems that the younger you are, the more apt you are in picking 'friends' badly. Maybe age does bring experience and understanding in such matters.
The conversation morphed into a discussion of how the Media loves to crap on the concept of true friends who communicate electronically instead of face-to-face.
Some of the people closest to me I get to see every few months…a couple I’ve never been in the same state, let alone face to face. But if you dare to diminish our bond and caring for each other, be ready to deal with me in your face and pissed off.
For me, friendship is a sacred thing. I personally will do anything in my power for a friend – and I feel guilt when I think I have let them down. All I ask is that they meet me halfway and will do the same.
What constitutes a friend in your eyes?
