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tygerlilly, a question to ramble about.... :)
Is there such a thing as a mid or quarter life crisis?
In my opinion, not only is this true on those milestones, but others like the ages of 26, 29, 30, 35, 36, 40....
These are the things that most in the world try to ignore - desperately trying to fit their lives into some kinda 'Harlequin-Romance,All-My-Children,Leave-It-To-Beaver" existence...and it's the reason for many problems in our society...to quote Mulder "The Truth Is Out There".
There is a 7 year itch. There is a point 1-2 years into a relationship (for both male and female, gay and straight), where even though you have "steak" at home, you crave a "hamburger". Vows and commitments do not change chemistry between people and differing sex drives. There are times where you crave your youth, whether that youth you crave is age 21, 25 or 40.
For most people, this is how it goes:
At 26, you realize you're closer to 30 than 20 - time to grow up.
At 29, you realize you're know at the age you thought was old when you were in high school.
At 30, you miss the things you could 'get away with' in your 20's.
At 35 & 36, you start thinking of where you thought you would be by now in your 20's and how close you are to 40 - usually you end up harshly judging yourself, normally without merit.
At or near 40, you say 'Fuck It' and enjoy your life. Some of us reach that attitude earlier than others. :)
The sooner you see that life ain't a dress rehearsal and let go of what people think and expect of you, the sooner you actually enjoy life. If you like comic books and dancing naked thru the house (whether there are people there or not), you do it. If you like staying up 'til the wee hours of the morning dancing and partying, who cares what others think - it ain't their life. If you see sex as fun for all and an expression of love and caring for people, male or female, married or just a friend, even or odd numbers, (and you're safe about it) - who in the world has the right to judge you?
All I'm saying is that there are times in your life where changes need to be made - whether it's who you call your friend, what people you surround yourself with (and the positive/negative energy that comes along with them) and what direction your life should go in?
If it's gonna be called a 'life crisis', you might as well live.
tygerlilly, a question to ramble about.... :)Is there such a thing as a mid or quarter life crisis?
In my opinion, not only is this true on those milestones, but others like the ages of 26, 29, 30, 35, 36, 40....
These are the things that most in the world try to ignore - desperately trying to fit their lives into some kinda 'Harlequin-Romance,All-My-Children,Leave-It-To-Beaver" existence...and it's the reason for many problems in our society...to quote Mulder "The Truth Is Out There".
There is a 7 year itch. There is a point 1-2 years into a relationship (for both male and female, gay and straight), where even though you have "steak" at home, you crave a "hamburger". Vows and commitments do not change chemistry between people and differing sex drives. There are times where you crave your youth, whether that youth you crave is age 21, 25 or 40.
For most people, this is how it goes:
At 26, you realize you're closer to 30 than 20 - time to grow up.
At 29, you realize you're know at the age you thought was old when you were in high school.
At 30, you miss the things you could 'get away with' in your 20's.
At 35 & 36, you start thinking of where you thought you would be by now in your 20's and how close you are to 40 - usually you end up harshly judging yourself, normally without merit.
At or near 40, you say 'Fuck It' and enjoy your life. Some of us reach that attitude earlier than others. :)
The sooner you see that life ain't a dress rehearsal and let go of what people think and expect of you, the sooner you actually enjoy life. If you like comic books and dancing naked thru the house (whether there are people there or not), you do it. If you like staying up 'til the wee hours of the morning dancing and partying, who cares what others think - it ain't their life. If you see sex as fun for all and an expression of love and caring for people, male or female, married or just a friend, even or odd numbers, (and you're safe about it) - who in the world has the right to judge you?
All I'm saying is that there are times in your life where changes need to be made - whether it's who you call your friend, what people you surround yourself with (and the positive/negative energy that comes along with them) and what direction your life should go in?
If it's gonna be called a 'life crisis', you might as well live.
